A few weeks ago, I met a new co-worker. K is an amazing young woman who has gone through a huge loss - last October, she and her husband lost a full term little girl. Her life as blogged here is a great testimony of God's grace. While I was still on sick leave, the other staff had told her of my loss. On the first day we worked together, she encouraged me to talk about Bethany and the pain of my loss. I have appreciated all those of my friends and family who realize the pain is real and have "given me permission" to grieve. The difference with K is that she "gave me permission" to feel like a mother, albeit one who has lost my only child. Some have said my loss was like a miscarriage but I felt like it was more like losing a child at full term - K was the first to tell me she believed it was. It was great to talk to someone who has experienced a similar loss and truly understands the pain. I wouldn't wish that on anyone much less a couple like K and her husband K but since they did go through it, I am glad I was able to meet them. Thank you so much, K (even though I end up crying whenever we talk about our girls)! - and I am so happy for you and pray all will work out well this time.
1 year ago
3 thoughts from friends:
Hi Norma,
Just dropping in to say hello and let you know I am thinking of you and praying for you. I have followed your journey and am always here if you need to talk. I can't imagine the pain you're going through, but I can be there if you need to "chat"
Sorry I haven't had time to come and comment lately... I totally agree that what you went through was a full-term loss and you are a mother as much as anyone who actually went through the pregnancy. I pray God will continue to comfort and that people will be understanding.
Hi Norma,
I don't mind at all. Thanks - and I've SO enjoyed getting to know and work with you as well. Talk anytime you want to... :)
Hugs,
kendall
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